they see me rollin'....they hatin'

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so, i decided yesterday that it was finally time for "this post"-- it's been sitting in my drafts folder for a while, but i pulled it out and dusted it off.

i came to terms some months ago that not everyone was gonna love what mindi puts out into the universe. it was difficult for me at first, because i have a tendency to be a bit of a pleaser, or get my feelings hurt if people don't approve. but i realized that everyone has the right to their own opinion, just as i had the write to post anything i wanted to, as it is MINDI'S BLOG. it was a good life lesson and i've learned and grown from it.

i get anonymous "hater" (or, as i like to say, 'hatah') comments from time to time. i usually leave them on as i am way too stubborn and beeyotchy to remove them. i figure it's the price you pay for putting all of your business out for all to see--you gotta take the good with the bad.

but here's my revelation: the hater comments are almost always, Always, ALWAYS, "ANONYMOUS"???? i find it surprising that these people who have so much to say to me never say who they are. hmmmmmmmmmmm..........interesting.
discuss.


51 comments:

devri said...

They are afraid of the Mindmachine- they want to be apart of your blog, feel welcome, but then trash you to get attention.. If they weren't afraid of gettin' their bootie kicked from here to New York, they'd sign their name...

hollylynn said...

lookie mindi, if a blogger has the hutspah (or however you spell that, IF i am even using it correctly) to put their name on their blog, then a commenter should have the guts to put their name on their comment.

Vanessa said...

Your blog = Your rules. They don't have to click on to it. They are just jealous that they can't come up with such witty, creative posts.

So I am reverting to my 14 year old behavior and flipping them off for you.

Mikki said...

I agree, if someone feels strongly enough about something to 1. disagree, and 2. express it, whether nicely or not, they should have the courage to display who they are.

LN said...

Doesn't surprise me. Ppl will say things under the cover of anonymity that they'd never think of saying if they could be identified.

Mrs. Sparks said...

They are just the type of people who hate the fact that they are addicted to blogging. Those of us who embrace our addictions love you. Screw them.

Tori :) said...

I ♥ Anonymous haters because then all your bloggy friends have your back and can go off on Anonymous. I find that entertaining. Am I weird?

buddens said...

I think if they had an ounce of creativity, they could at least make up a fake blogger name and post negative comments under it to at least feign legitimacy while keeping with their anonymous (aka pansie) ways.

hoLLy said...

cuz they're losers. nuff said. (stealing that line from holly o. i know:)

rachel said...

They can't handle the awesomeness...I feel like the "anonymous" option is like the bully option in high school. People with low self esteem or closemindedness who feel the need to make others feel bad in order to make themselves feel better. You just keep on rollin' girl! We got you...

Holly O. said...

Hmmmmm. The hoochie anonymous comments are probably people who leave nice comments on other posts. I do love and admire that you leave those comments on, very cool.

tammy said...

Apparently they didn't watch Bambi growing up...if you can't say anything nice, then shut the hell up.

Why be anonymous unless you have somthing to hide?

Angie said...

I haven't encountered a "hatah" yet, but then again I don't get near as much traffic as you do. Look at all of us that think you are "Blogger Queen". Don't worry about the ignorant, peeon that has no guts to put a name to words!! I love ya! Maybe you ought to keep the comments on there so we can ALL retaliate against her/him! We're a family and we stick together like velcro sista!

Angie said...

P.S. I'm totally laughing now!! Now I see what you are saying about the "hataH"! After commenting on this entry I went down to your give away to see who I was in complete competition with and saw the "anonymous hatah"!!! OOOOOO that would piss me off. I loved your comment back though!! It looks like 99% love you though and that is excellent odds!!

Tiffany said...

Mindi- You're the shiznit! I say tackle them head-on! You'll win every time. =)

Krista said...

i was getting weird anonymous comments too. It bugged that they had the "guts" to say such things...yet not enough to list their name? why? becuase they know they're lame? Anyway, I took off the option of anonymous people being able to comment.

Krista said...

p.s. how did Tori put a {heart} in her comment? I want to learn that.

gina bina said...

Ah, don't worry about them. Just do your thing! Obviously, we like it!

Adam and Kristina said...

I've been lucky, even with quite a few readers as of late, to not really get very many nasty comments. However, I had one recently that was below the belt. Say what you want about my blog, but don't make nasty comments about my husband. I deleted the comment and then blocked their IP address. It was my first IP ban.

I have left one anonymous comment, because someone was commenting on people who read Seriously, So Blessed, and was trying to drum up business for her copycat blog. I didn't want retaliation, so I left a comment saying it was rude to troll other blogs for readers.

I also realize that I have some responsiblity in this, by allowing anonymous comments to begin with. If it becomes a problem for me, I will remove that option.

JenTix said...

It is their own insecurities that are driving them to leave the mail and they are even more insecure by not leaving a name. Just remember to send them joy, happiness, success, love, etc. You are the better person and the good vibes will come back to you.
I know, I know, blah, blah, blah! But it really works!

MiaKatia said...

I am like you in that I want to be a people pleaser so those snippy obnoxious annon comments really bug me too, but your friends love you so just let those people roll off your back.

daisy said...

I keep coming back to see if "anonymous" has written yet. Nope. I'm a little disappointed. I like a little drama.

Lauren said...

As much as I hate anonymous commenters...and I get them a lot...I too find them entertaining when everyone is hatin' on them. Tori always has my back in those situations.

But, all and all...haters suck.

And...I love that little animated guy. He looks like he is from Sesame Street...awesome!

Shannon said...

I totally agree--get some guts people! But I must say I read your blog pretty often...and what I really want to talk about right now is Moulin Rouge and your recent posting. I dare anyone to watch the elephant medly and not feel something! MR is my fave move of all time and i think that song is the make it or break it point. It was when I knew that me + MR = true love. at the same time, when the moon started singing, my brother-in-law walked out of the theater! haha i guess watching this movie is one way we can separate the creative, fabulous people from all the rest. :) yay for your daughter!

Suzie said...

my take:

first, of course, I wanted to defend you and tell that person to just stay off the computer. Sheesh! I have contact with you every single day and you are for real. Genuine, kind & awesome.

as for unkind people who hide behind their anomonitity and leave rude comments.
I think that they are in pain.

They feel destructive and lash out at others. I say, if a rude comment makes your husband and precious children less of a target for your self-hatred, then ok. Bring it on.

But really, you probably just need a hug or a kind word. Find it. Find some friends and have some fun. Blog. Life is wonderful.
I hope to teach my kids to be builders instead of tearer-downers.
Can you imagine what kind of world we would be in!


holy comment!

Amy M. said...

No "Hatah" here. I have not checked blogs for so long that I was starting to get Mindi withdrawls. Hey, there is not way to please everyone! Just keep doing what your doing. I am loving it, as well as tons of others.

Jori said...

Who could hate Mindi? Sheesh. I like you enough to sit by mr. dandruff in the smelly library.

Mother Goose said...

gotta love that it keeps things fresh. But, if you are going to leave a hatah comment why not be BIG enough to stand behind your opinion!

Christi said...

Scared bee-otches. Unfortunately, girls cannot be girls without a little jealousy involved. So embarassing!

If it is any consolation to you, the rest of us worship the ground you walk on.

samiam said...

I agree your blog = your rules. There is a reason, good or bad, why they come back. You rock and keep it real... maybe that is the issue? Sheesh People!

Pedaling said...

have you ever noticed that haters most often attack and accuse you of exactly what they are doing. in other words, they call YOU rude or mean, yet it's THEM that is leaving the unkind comment on YOUR blog...they make donkeys of themselves....i speak from experience, yes, but hey what do you expect i write about politics and my glorious little wonderful life....guess i'm asking for it.
maybe they can't read the sarcasism in my words, ...whatever.
you go girl!

Sharla said...

If it helps to counteract the hater effect, you should know that I just fawned all over you on my blog in an attempt to look cooler by association. :)

Harlene said...

Whatevah! Nothing but love here!

kourtney said...

Freedom of speech. You should never question yourself. You can say whay you want proudly and with your name attached. And sadly they can say what they want, cowardly, without their name. Just know that most people, at least not me care what they are saying. Nothin but love for you!

Stephanie M said...

I'm a people pleaser myself, and its been a growing experience writing what I want to and trying not to worry what people think. So I understand. "anonymous" definitely should do the same and leave their name.

Also - you've been awarded a blog award at nocleaninghere.com!!

Chat Blanc (aka Sandy) said...

I stopped over on recommendation of stephanie at nocleaninghere and I'm so glad I did! :) I'm a fairly new blogger and I'm starting to learn the lesson of the haters too. all I can say is--YOU GO GIRL!! you deserve better!

Anonymous said...

it's because you are so freaking LAME and they don't want to have their good names tainted by association. that's my guess.

Hacking it up said...

chickens.

bock! bock!

I bock at them.

I send love to you! :)

Omgirl said...

J.K. Hahaha.

Michael said...

Only you would post anonymous comments to yourself to increase your popularity. Look how many comments it has gotten you though. You are a genius!! A genius that has LOST her phone again. Are you just a little we todd did? I have an extra sitting here if your Man is ready to bail you out again. Just let me know.

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S said...

I truly do not understand it either. Why bother, nobody cares was anon has to say anyway! ♥

*KaTiE cLoVeR* said...

HEY ALL YOU HATAHS OUT THERE!
BACK OFF OF MY MAMMA!
I TAKE YOU ALL ANY DAY!
if you dont have anything nice to say, then DONT FREAKING SAY IT AT ALL! its all love here people!
all love to you mom!

Mindi said...

anonymous--again, thank you for your kind words and support. you proved my theory right, once again, by hiding behind the curtiain.
your (spineless) comment stays!

Tiburon said...

I get the hater posts too. Sucks when they hide behind Anonymous.

For the record, I have yet to hate anything you have put into the universe.

Well, aside from those embarrassing videos of moi.

Holly H. said...

I can't believe people don't have better things to do with their time. Didn't their mama teach them... if you can't say something nice...? That's been my motto with a couple other blogs out there, BUT NEVER YOURS! Whoever the chicken is out there that won't make themself known... all I have to say is LOSER!

Christie said...

I've only had only one, truly hateful anonymous post, but it sucked. I felt the need to devote an entire post to that person. I suppose you could always remove the option to post anonymously. But where would the fun be in that?

Jennie Minor said...

WOW! I can't believe your hater comment. seriously, if they hate you so much, why even check your blog...or if they think you are so "lame". Grow a pair.

Tanja said...

Isn't it funny how they obviously stalk and read blogs regularly, but don't have the balls to come out and put their name to their comment. Really?!

Ida said...

NO hating here. I love your blog it brings me giddy joy at times. I think people should have the balls to post their name if they post something bad. Maybe karma will kick their ass for you.

SOrry about the language but I do curse like a sailor at times. ooops!

Anonymous said...

The RBC said...
I guess that you are so LAME that they just can't get enough of your blog. Obviously, it is someone who is jealous but can't get enough of how talented you are and can't force themselves away. I am proud of your blog and happy it has brought you happiness. Keep it up!!! Love you.